(Autobiography of Kittie Lanham Oakes - her temporary
title)
Introduction by Elaine Oakes:
Kittie Lanham was born July 16, 1894.
I have combined several documents that my Grandmother Kittie left.
The
originals were partly handwritten and partly typed on poor quality
paper
and had deteriorated badly. Some of the material was repetitious
and some
was fragmentary. None of it was really complete. Because
they are
interesting hints about other stories, I included the fragments
but put
them in brackets. I have added a very little from my memory
of her
stories.
Grandmother was a great storyteller, and it is hard to say what
really
happened and what was just a good story she had read somewhere and
adopted.
The earlier versions had different names for several people and
she
probably didn't remember most of them by the time she wrote this,
sixty-
some years after the events. I believe most of the ordinary
things, and
most of the stories of mischief she and her sister got into.
She claims
that Sister was wild but from what she said about her own behavior
she was
pretty wild for those days, too. These days they would be
considered
normal to rather tame.
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I was born, under a lucky star, I think, in Grayson County Texas
in a
village so small I cannot find it on my map and it may not even
exist
today. Both my grandfathers were Confederate Veterans and
both were early
settlers in Texas because, as they told me, Reconstruction Days
were so
difficult in South Carolina and Mississippi. They felt they
would be far
better off in new territory and both bought cheap land in Grayson
Co. in
1870, within six months of each other. I was born there so
some of my
remembrances are tales they told me as a child.
Grandfather Weems moved his family from Mississippi to a farm about
four
miles west of Sherman and Grandfather Lanham, from Edgefield, South
Carolina to one about the same distance east. Both lived in
log cabins in
the beginning.
My paternal grandfather was Col. R.G. Lanham. He served with
General Lee
in Virginia, and while there he met and married Caroline Elizabeth
Harrison. I never met her as she died before my father and
mother were
married. The old Daguerreotype picture and some bits and pieces
of jewelry
are all I remember of her, but she left two sons, my father Tom
and Wiley,
his younger brother. . Papa said that I looked very much like her,
and he
also told me that she was related to the two Harrison Presidents
and kin to
Pocahontas but since then I do not remember, if I ever knew, the
names of
either of her parents.
Grandfather must have loved her very much for he did not remarry
for a long
time - until I was about 8 or 9 years old. And much later,
I found a small
notebook among his things with sweet, sentimental poems he had written
to
her. I have a lovely heavy taffeta dress, handmade with tiny stitches,
that
she wore when she went to meet her new husband's family in Edgefield
SC.
Grandfather Lanham's full name was Robert Glover Lanham. My
father's name
was Thomas Walter and his brother was Wiley Harrison. Uncle
Wiley never
married. Although one of Grandpa's sisters traced the family
records and
had them printed in a small booklet my actual first hand knowledge
of the
Lanham genealogy is skimpy. My aunt traced the family history
back to
about 1800 when Solomon Lanham settled in Maryland not far from
Washington,
DC. My great-grandfather moved to Edgefield, SC and my father
was born
there. My father, Thomas Walter Lanham was born in Edgefield, South
Carolina and went to Texas as a small boy in 1870 or 1871.
He grew up near
Sherman and became a schoolteacher. He attended college in
Sherman but did
not graduate, though he taught school most of his life and was truly
a
bookish type. He was a very good small town school superintendent.
My father had one younger brother, Wiley Harrison. He had
a strange and
tragic accident, never explained. At the age of about 21,
he was a law
student in college at Sherman and was considered to have a brilliant
future. But one night he rode home returning from town.
When his horse
came home without him, Grandfather became alarmed and went to look
for him.
He found his son lying beside the road, unconscious.
Uncle Wiley was an excellent horseman and it was most unlikely that
his
horse had thrown him. The road was not rocky nor hard packed
and the
fracture in his skull was high enough and jagged enough that no
plausible
idea was found to account for the injury. He was unconscious
for weeks and
doctors trepanned his skull to remove pressure. He was desperately
ill for
weeks and the Sherman paper even printed his obituary. This
he showed me
along with two buttons of bone taken from his scull.
He did regain his health but never fully recovered mentally, was
subject to
occasional violent fits of temper. My mother was always able
to calm him
more easily than anyone.
My mother's father, James Madison Weems, was born in Mississippi,
and I
still have his old family Bible giving the names and dates of all
his
brothers and sisters. Tradition gives the first Weems in this
country as
living Virginia near the small town of Wakefield where George Washington
was born. My Uncle Mat had a friend also named Weems who had
traced the
family line back to the Wymss Castle in Scotland but the actual
family
history has breaks in it, though appearances and characteristics
indicate
kinship back down the history.
Digging back into memories to see what one can recall presents problems.
I think, because many children are brought up hearing anecdotes
telling of
their early behavior, it is difficult for a person to separate what
they
actually do remember from what they may have heard related to them
of early
happenings in their infancy. I doubt that many can draw a
line of
distinction with accuracy.
The first place that I am sure I definitely remember is the house
where I
was born. That home belonged to my grandparents and since
they moved from
that small village before I was four years old, incidents that happened
there are rather unrelated to any sequence of events. In my
mind's eye, I
can see part of that house thought I cannot recall the number of
rooms or
their arrangement. I know that it was large enough to have
an upstairs,
and that there were two porches and that it was painted an ugly,
dingy
yellow. The front porch had a fancy balustrade around it,
ant there was a
sort of fretwork under the eaves, much more elaborate than modern
taste
suggests.
The house was set in a large yard, and there were several trees
for shade
where I could play. Grandpa hung a rope swing for me from
one of the low
branches. And the yard was fenced. That is about all
I can stretch my
memory to cover.
Why the house is less distinct in my mind than the gin I do not
know. But
for some reason, the fact that Grandpa Weems ran the cotton gin,
and
certain incidents that occurred in connection with the operation
of the gin
are more impressed on my memory. I do not know why, but such is
the fact.
Ginning season in that part of Texas was a strenuous time for the
manager.
The gin ran all night, wagons piled high with the white fluff filled
the
gin yard waiting for their turn. And I remember watching these,
the horses and mules and the tired farmers. They were sometimes so exhausted
from the
long days in the picking fields that they stretched out on top of
their
loads to snatch the sleep they missed. They often did their
barnyard
chores by lantern light in order to be in the fields picking their
cotton
at the first faint light of morning.
I loved to see the wagons with high sideboards move up in orderly
line. To
see the huge pipe pulled into position so it could suck up the white
load
into the tearing pulling teeth of the rollers. Once I remember
seeing a
man's hat sucked from his head as he pulled the suction pipe into
position, and another time, a stone about the size of a man's fist was
drawn into the
machinery to damage it and cause a shut-down. Time was lost
for repairs,
then rollers began to turn again and thick, white felted cotton
was folded
and pressed into bales and tied with metal straps. Perhaps
I remember so
much of this because I knew that Grandpa was working too hard.
Often he
could not leave even long enough to walk across the road for his
meals.
Tiny though I was, I could carry a small pail of cold buttermilk
when
Grandmother or Mama took his plate of food to him. And there
was dusty
lint hanging from every weed or tree in the whole gin yard.
Big black-and-white Dan was the dog member of the family and I think
he was
a mutt but mostly of the Newfoundland breed. Grandpa often
said Dan was
such a good brave watchdog, that he saved the wages of a night watchman
at
the gin. He was devoted to me and when any man came to the
house, Dan
always placed himself between that man and Sister and me.
Once when Mama
had been away for sometime, and came up the front walk in her best
dress,
an elaborate white organdy with loads of frilly ruffles, Dan met
her
halfway down the walk and she did not see him in time. He
stood erect on
his hind legs, and was taller than she, then he gently put his arms
around
her neck and kissed her. Unfortunately, he did not realize
that the rain
the night before had left the feathers along his legs wet and muddy.
Ironing that white dress took hours but Mama just laughed and seemed
pleased that Dan was so glad to see her.
Mama had two brothers only a little older than she and for this
weekend,
the whole family was together. I don't remember what this
celebration was
for, but it was something special. Uncle Mat made the ice
cream. He set
the big freezer on a table on the back porch and turned the crank.
I
adored both my uncles, and no small girl was ever petted more.
But both
uncles loved to tease me, Uncle Mat in particular. That was
how I got the
shock of my young life. It was a warm, no! HOT!
Summer day in Texas and
the ice in the freezer melted fast. When the salty water began
to overflow
from the wooden bucket of the freezer, Uncle Mat set the freezer
in a big
dishpan. After several minutes of vigorous turning the crank,
the cream
was frozen. Then Uncle Mat set it out of the pan and wrapped
it in feed
sacks and left it on the table to ripen. He pushed the pan
full of icy
saltwater back a little way under the table. His job was done
and he
turned his attention to me. He was playfully reciting to me
the old rhyme
about "The old bumble bee came out of the barn, and he had his bagpipe
under his arm, and he went z-z-z-z!" He had a sort of tune
to the jingle
and when he reached the z-z-z-z, he tickled my ribs. I backed
away,
dodging, and sat down in that icy pan of water. A violent
shock and the
first in my young life, I guess! I howled! The rest
of the family saw
only the finny side.
Later, that same afternoon, some young friends dropped in for the
ice cream
and cake. That was when I gave Uncle Mat his shock in return.
He took his
special girl out to the settee on the front porch so they could
eat their
cream together in privacy but I followed them. Of course,
after the icy
wetting I had that morning, I had to have fresh clothing from the
skin out,
and as it happened Mama had made me new underwear of which
I was very
proud.
I hunted Uncle Mat up to tell him about that, "I got new drawers
on, Uncle
Mat! Have you got new drawers? Mine have lace on them,
too. Uncle Mat,
do your drawers have lace on them?"
Both Uncle Mat and his young lady were terribly embarrassed.
So was Mama!
I was hustled back inside and given a lecture on the subject of
what not to
talk about.
Operating that gin was hard work, long hours, and a great deal of
responsibility for Grandpa but he made many friends among the farmers
and
having been a farmer previously he knew their problems and could
talk to
them. Some of his friends put his name up and he was popular
enough to be elected County Commissioner. Then he moved his home
to the county seat
town.
His next home was a neat little gray cottage and I could almost
draw a
blueprint of that place, it is so firmly fixed in my memory.
The whole
family gathered there for the first Christmas that I can remember.
It was
a traditional Christmas, only we did not have a tree at home.
I was told
that Santa Claus would come down the chimney if I hung up my stocking,
however, since there was no fireplace, only a big black heating
stove with
a six or seven inch pipe, I could not quite take in the idea without
a few
questions.
As for the Christmas tree, Uncle Buddy came to take me to that.
Since our
family was only visiting from out of town, Mama explained that I
need not
expect Santa Claus to have anything for me on that tree, but that
my
presents would surely appear the next morning in my stocking.
After
assuring Mama that I just wanted to see the gorgeous, big tree with
its
bright decorations, and that I would not be disappointed, she let
me go
with him. Imagine my surprise when my name was called the
same as the
other children! Santa, himself, brought me a little packet
tied up in
bright ribbon. I was proud as could be, with a lovely box
of four tiny
perfumes all different "flavors".
That Christmas Eve night I was so excited, and my small black cotton
stocking did not seem nearly big enough to hold the doll I wanted
so I
borrowed one from Grandmother. Then I worried for fear Santa
would not
know it was mine so I wrote a letter to him telling him about the
exchange
in hose. I was not more than five but I had been reading writing
more than
a year. I carefully pinned the letter to the long stocking
and hung it on
a chair beside the stove just before kissing everybody "goodnight"
and
saying my "Now, I lay me."
At Grandpa's home, I do not remember ever having a tree. There
were always
a few decorations, a mistletoe wreath with red ribbon bow on the
front
door, and some other bunches hung around the parlor (never called
a "living
room then") and in the dining room. One of Grandmother's sons
or Papa saw
that she had flowers, usually a vase of red and white carnations.
But the
only tree we saw was at the church. A tall cedar with many
candles
carefully placed and strings of popcorn and cranberries; sometimes
tinsel
strings sparkled among little brown paper bags of candy for the
children,
and striped peppermint candy canes, and a few of the lighter weight
unbreakable toys.
Next morning early, I found a small China doll in the top of my
stocking.
She was so beautifully dressed in soft red wool that I now know
Grandmother
must have spent many hours making that lace trimmed petticoat and
tiny
ruffled drawers with baby-sized buttons and buttonholes. Beside
my
stocking, there was a tiny iron cook stove almost an exact replica
of the
one in our kitchen, and the miniature pots and pans to go with it.
I was
so proud! I still have that doll.
The memories of that Christmas are still vivid. It was wonderful,
the
family happiness, the laughter, the jokes and gentle teasing.
Before the
hearty breakfast, with every one of us around the long table, Grandpa
conducted family worship. He read the story of the Baby Jesus
from the
family Bible, said a short, earnest prayer, then served our plates.
Grandpa was a very devout man, a steward in the church, and he held
family
prayers every night just before retiring.
After breakfast, Grandmother and Mama began preparing the elaborate
Christmas dinner, stuffing and baking the turkey, getting vegetables
ready, and all the things that could not have been prepared earlier.
Coconut
white cake, spice cake, and a big platter full of fancy cookies
had been
prepared during the week but several fruit cakes had been ripening,
occasionally sprinkled with whiskey, for more than two months.
Uncle Mat
and Grandpa beat up eggnog and set it to ripen on the back porch.
Each of
the three of us had a sip, and my opinion as to its quality was
gravely
considered, even though they both were perfectly aware that was
my very
first taste of the delectable stuff. It was later served with
some of the
fruitcake to any guests who might drop in.
The China doll I received that Christmas was not my first love for
I
remember Nora. She was a rag doll and I do not remember just
when she was
acquired, but I must have been very young, probably about three.
Mama made
this doll but it was all hand made and hand-painted with some of
Mama's
artist oils. I think she even made the pattern, the doll was
cut from for
I have never seen another so well shaped. It had a nicely
rounded head,
well-shaped nose, and seams were well hidden under the beautifully
painted baby face, which looked so much more like a real baby than the
China doll. Nora even wore some of Sister's outgrown baby clothes.
She was the only doll, of the many later ones I had, that I ever wanted
to take to sleep
with me, I loved her so.
Papa was a country schoolteacher and moved about from one place
to another
quite often. The first school that I remember about was probably
about
twenty miles from where Grandpa and Grandmother lived. It
was in a farm
community and our little family could find no house available for
the
teacher's family. We were fortunate that one of the members
of the school
board took us in to board in his home.
We became members of the Kane family which was already rather large
consisting for three grown sons, one of them away at college, two
grown
daughters, another almost grown, and the baby of the family only
a year
older that I. She and I were great playmates.
The Kane home was large with a big attic where Lorena and I could
find the
most amazing costumes for dressing up like ladies. There were
several
storage trunks of garments that had long gone out of style, picture
hats
with enormous plumes, veils and wraps. That was a wonderful
place to play,
especially on rainy days. We could spend hours there without
interfering
with any of the grown-up projects.
Mr. Grayson Kane was a very devout man, a well-to-do farmer and
popular in
that section of the county. It was the custom some time during
the summer
for an itinerant preacher to come into the community with a tent
and hold
about 10 days camp meeting. Once or twice the meeting was
held in Mr.
Kane's big pasture, but after a few years, the church managed to
scrape up
enough cash to buy a small tract of land on which they expected
to build a
church. Until this church was erected, a brush arbor was put
up.
Supports of four or five inch logs were set in the ground and a
framework
of lighter poles nailed across their tops. Then brush was
piled on top
enough to provide shade and even some protection from a light shower.
At
one end of the arbor, a platform was set up, and borrowed chairs
provided
seats for the choir. A crude shelf was set up at the front
of the platform
to hold the preacher's bible, though after reading a few verses,
it was
rarely referred to. Some one in the community loaned an organ;
the lodge
provided flare torches, and the camp meeting was off to a good start.
If the preacher was well known, sometimes families came for several
miles
in their big farm wagons. Mattresses and quilts were brought,
as well as
food for several days. Such gatherings of relatives and friends
might
provide their annual get-together, unless a funeral might intervene
when
the clans would always gather.
Ordinarily, the Kane family attended the camp meetings with reasonable
regularity since they lived only about three miles from the meeting
grounds. But one summer, Mrs. Kane decided she was going to
camp. Mr.
Kane put up the objection that he could not stay at night because
of his
live stock. They had to be attended to night and morning,
but in the end,
he agreed to fit up one of his wagons for camping. One of
the older boys
could stay with the family and Mr. Kane and the hired hand Rufus
would go
to meetings during the days, always returning to the farm to do
the chores
and sleep there.
Rufus was a drifter who had never been exposed to the hellfire and
brimstone some of those country preachers could dispense.
Neither was he
overly gifted with gumption, though he could and did fulfill his
farm
duties fairly well under the close supervision Mr. Kane gave him.
Mr. Kane
was a little surprised when Rufus indicated that he wanted to attend
some
of the services but readily gave his permission, with the proviso
that
Rufus was to return at night with Mr. Kane to help with the chores.
After seeing the preacher get himself well warmed up to his sermon,
and
seeing several shouting women, and mourners converted, the combined
effect
of these things made considerable impression on Rufus and he went
down to
the mourner's bench. But though many of the believers prayed
with Rufus,
and he returned to the bench for prayers several times, Rufus was
still
unconvicted. He was still struggling trying to think things
out one night
when he and Mr. Kane started for home.
The meeting was expected to close the next day so Mr. Kane had left
his
gentle farm team of horses with his family, just in case they wanted
to
come home before he returned. On this night, he was driving
a team of
young mules to his wagon. They were not yet thoroughly trained
for their
duties, but were excellent plow animals. No noise followed
the plow, but
the wagon made sounds to them, running over some of the rocks in
the road,
empty and rattling along.
Rufus, still under the spell of the preacher, was struggling in
his soul,
trying to pray salvation through, and asked Mr. Kane for help.
Mr. Kane
quoted scriptural verses in answer to all the questions and was
sincerely
concerned about his hand's welfare. The mules were trotting
along under
perfect control, the summer moon overhead, the peaceful night, and
Rufus
praying softly.
About half way between the Kane home and the arbor, there was a
long
sloping hill leading down toward the Kane gate. Just as the
wagon reached
the top of this hill, Rufus stood up shouting.
"I've got it! Hallelujah! Glory be, I've got religion,
Mr. Kane! I'm
goin' to Heaven, now!"
The startled mules' first leap threw Rufus over the back of the
wagon seat
where he fell into the bed of the wagon, still shouting. Mr.
Kane braced
himself, trying to control those frightened mules in their headlong
race
down the hill, expecting every second for one of the wheels to strike
a
rock large enough to overturn the careening wagon.
Rufus pulled himself up on his knees, yelling at the top of his
voice. Mr.
Kane was sawing on the heavy reins, trying desperately to bring
his team
under control.
"Shut up, Rufus!: he ordered. "For pity sake quiet down!"
But Rufus paid no heed. "Hallelujah, I'm a-gonna see Glory!"
The mules ran the harder. In desperation, Mr. Kane gathered
both reins
into his left hand, swung himself around on the seat and clouted
Rufus
right in the mouth.
"Dammit, you fool! Shut your mouth, or we'll both be in Heaven,
next
minute!"
Such an outburst was entirely out of character, Mr. Kane normally
being a
quiet, mild-mannered man, that Rufus was shocked into silence.
The mules
were quickly brought under control, and the two men reached home
safely and
in silence. Neither of them ever mentioned the incident.
One of the neighbors, however, had just turned his team off the
main road
into his lane. He heard and saw the frantic run-away and he
repeated the
story to the preacher.
The preacher stared at the man thoughtfully, then, "I take it, Mr.
Brown,
you don't drive mules," he said mildly.
When school was over, we went back to Grandpa's for a visit.
I cried
myself sick when Mama gave my rag doll, Nora, to Lorena as a parting
gift.
Lorena and I, both, had other dolls but Nora was my favorite.
Mama
promised me she would make me another just like it but she never
did.
Strange how a single childish incident sets the pattern or furnishes
a clue
to other more important sequences. But from that time on,
I knew in the
depths of my heart that my wishes, my desires, and my longings were
of
minor importance to Mama. I realized then, though I was very
young, that I
could never count on complete fairness from her. And I have
never
understood why my doll should be taken away from me and given to
some one
else over my unwilling protests.
Even after we moved away from that community, we often went back
on visits
as long as we lived in Texas. Lorena and I were flower girls
when her
grandparents celebrated their golden wedding. In those days
it was a rare
couple who lived long enough for that fiftieth year celebration,
since then
Texas was not far past pioneering days. It had been a hard
life for many
of them.
Little old, Mrs. Callahan looked very sweet in her embroidered white
dress,
and their sons and daughters bought a lovely gold brooch for her
gift and
an elaborately engraved gold-headed cane for Mr. Callahan.
I even remember
the identical ruffled white dresses Lorena and I wore, with wide
gold-
colored satin sashes. The reception was held in the Kane's
big living room
and banks of goldenrod were everywhere.
While we were with Grandpa and Grandmother, that summer, Uncle Mat
hung up
his shingle as a dentist. First, he had studied for more than
a year under
an old dentist who wanted a young partner. When he was sure
that he wanted
to continue in this profession, he went away to school in Baltimore
and
studied in the dental college there. Later, he became one
of the best in
Texas and with his own practice.
After a couple of years in the East at school, he came back and
was quite
the gay young blade, with his very fashionable tight fitting trousers,
derby hat, and bicycle. He also acquired a beautiful trotting
horse, a
buggy, and various other accessories.
Once, he took me to Dennison on his bicycle, a distance of about
six or even miles. He had planned to meet some of his young friends
there. Some
of the young women had come in buggies. But for that one night,
I was
thrilled at being his best girl. He told me so. He took
me for a boat
ride on the lake, got a water lily for me, and fed me all the popcorn
and
pink lemonade I could handle. I had a wonderful time.
As we were riding home, with me on the handlebars, much later than
my usual
bedtime, his rear tire went flat and that meant we had to walk for
miles.
Part of the way was along dark road, and through deserted streets.
When we
finally did arrive at home, the whole family was up waiting.
They were
astonished that I had walked all that distance, without a single
whine or
whimper. And though it was very late and I was only about
five, I had not
complained of being to sleepy to walk and had never asked to be
carried.
The next school my father taught was endowed. Part of the
funds for it
came from the state, but the building, grounds and house for the
teacher's
home were provided by a very wealthy old doctor as a memorial to
his only
daughter. He had selected about five acres from the middle
of a huge
pasture for the site.
He kept herds of cattle in that pasture and when some of them were
near our
yard fence, Mama was deathly afraid and she would not go into the
yard,
herself, nor let me go even though we had a good fence, of three
our four
strands of barbed wire. She was especially fearful if some
of those big
red bulls began pawing the dust nearby.
The schoolyard was also fenced and there was plenty of play ground.
Since
the doctor was quite an advanced thinker for his day and time, he
had
provided space for the children to learn how to plant a garden,
set out a
few fruit trees, and make flower beds and hot beds.
The main building was a large, white, frame structure, with two
long rooms
separated by a sliding partition so that they could be thrown together
to
provide for a community center. A narrow stage to provide
for school
programs ran along one end, and there was a smaller single room
for primer
classes and the first and second grades. This building was
about the size
of the many one-room schools that dotted the rest of the county.
Our house was just across the road from the school and it was constructed
on the same pattern of all the better farm homes in that section.
It had a
hall straight back from the front porch to the kitchen, with a large
room
on each side and a stair going up from near the single center door.
The
upstairs plan was identical. There were no closets, no built-ins,
not even
a back porch. The dug well was about thirty feet from the
kitchen door and
that in itself was considered a great convenience, as the wife on
many of
the farmsteads in that area sometimes had to carry water several
hundred
feet. Our well was about thirty feet deep and all the water
used we pulled
up with rope and pulley. Every home had a brassbound cedar
bucket set on a
wash shelf near the kitchen door with a big tin basin and roller
towel
handy.
We lived at this place several years and everything I learned about
the
people in the community interested me. Some were rugged individuals.
There was old Doctor Sheperd, who had provided this school for children
from his tenant families, and many more besides. The greater
number of
pupils walked to school, sometimes several miles. Others rode
horseback,
and one family sent their kids in an old buggy.
When I was about six, Dr. Sheperd vaccinated me for small pox and
I
remember that he asked Mama to be sure to save the scab when it
fell from
my arm. He provided a small box filled with sterile cotton
for her to put
it in and he used that scab for many of his patients who needed
the
vaccination but could not afford to pay for serum. He said
I was such a
healthy little animal that my scab would do for several hundred
inoculations. Nowadays, medical procedure like that is beyond
the
imagination of modern practitioners. I suppose many of the
younger doctors
have never come in contact with a case of smallpox, and they certainly
can
have little idea of how terrible that dreadful pestilence used to
be. I
have since seen several cases and I know.
Dr. Sheperd was a fine man and I admired him greatly but I doubt
if he knew
much about medicine. He had a fairly good library and did
considerable
reading but I never knew that he attended any medical seminars or
such.
But his team and buggy were familiar over all the roads round about.
He
carried a small black pillbox and from it dispensed calomel and
quinine as
needed. And that was about all, except for a pair of forceps,
a needle and
gut strings, and his thermometer. Undoubtedly, his greatest
value to the
community was the comfort and sympathy he gave his patients along
with his
pills. They trusted his wisdom, his knowledge of human nature
and went to
him for advice on many family problems other than health.
After we had been living on Dr. Sheperd's place for about a year,
Mama and
Papa received an invitation to a wedding. Mr. and Mrs. Kane
were giving
their daughter a church wedding, and Mama was asked to take charge
of the
affair. Lorena and I were to be flower girls again.
This was to be the
first church wedding I ever attended. Since we were about
twenty miles
from the nearest florist, Mama and some of the neighbors gathered
bushels
of honeysuckle vines to decorate the little chapel. I have
no idea how
many white tissue paper flowers they made. Over the altar,
they made and
hung a white bell and the church looked lovely.
After all that elaborate preparation, the poor groom was so flustered
that
he forgot to pick up the bride's bouquet at the railroad station.
Mama
sacrificed all the cosmos in her flowerbed, tied them with a satin
bow, and
that made a pretty, ferny armful for the bride to carry.
That summer, Papa went to Wyoming to work but I don't know whether
it was
harvesting or ranching, or what. He thought it would be good
for his
health for him to change climate and work in the open for a few
months.
That left Mama alone with two very small daughters and the nearest
neighbor
about half a mile away. Uncle Buddy thought she would be much
safer if she
had a gun for protection so he brought her a nice .32 Smith and
Wesson
pistol. It was a good one and Mama was so proud of it.
She took it out in
the back yard, set up a mark and began a bit of practice.
She was already
an excellent shot with a rifle or a shotgun but had never tried
her hand
with a pistol.
Our nearest neighbor was a rather odd person who went by the name
of
"Whispering Jack!" When he plowed his fields, he did it by
the sound of
his voice and if the wind was right neighbors in the next county
knew it.
We could almost set our clock by the time when he called his daughter
Jane
to fetch in the milk cows for the evening milking. He had
been a cowboy
before he settled down to raise his family, and he had been on many
of the
early cattle drives. He took great pride in his ability as
a rifle and
pistol shot. So when he heard Mama shooting, he came up to
see.
He challenged her and they agreed to a match, using a small knothole
in the
end of a barrel for a mark. Jack was amazed when Mama out-shot
him badly.
He liked Mama and told everybody around how good she was.
I had seen her
shoot the head off a fryer when unexpected company might drop in
for dinner
but that was with a twenty-two rifle. This was her first try
with her new
pistol.
I begged to try the pistol, too, after Mama and Mr. Lynch finished
their
match. I was so small that I had to hold the pistol in both
hands to aim
it and it took all the strength of both index fingers to pull that
trigger.
But even so, I almost hit that knothole they had used for
their mark.
Mama was pleased and promised that when I was older she would teach
me to
shoot, too, but she also gave me a little instruction on how dangerous
guns were and told me never to touch her gun unless she gave me
permission.
During Papa's absence, that gun was laid on a chair at the head
of her bed
every night in easy reach if she should ever need it. By day,
it was
equally available in the top bureau drawer. Yet, I knew I
must not touch
it. And as Sister grew older she was taught in the same way.
There it
was, in easy reach any time but so far as I know neither of us ever
disobeyed in that respect. I do not know if such instruction
would be as
effective today with all the 'bang-bang' shows on TV but I've always
thought that the great danger in such weapons is not in the gun,
but in the
lack of proper training.
Summer that year was unusually hot and dry. Many wells failed
and ours was
so low we wondered if it would hold out. Mama's garden parched,
and her
flowers all dried up. Sister became listless and hardly ate.
Mama worried
for fear she would get seriously sick. At last, Mama decided
she had had
enough of the loneliness and heat. She would go to visit her
parents. It
was a long hard trip for a woman traveling alone with two small
children.
It meant about ten or twelve hours by horse and buggy. But
she made plans
to set out.
Jane Lynch agreed to feed and water the chickens, the cow was put
in their
pasture with their milk stock. Mama washed and ironed all
our clothes and
packed them in her valise. She prepared a box of lunch, stowed
a quilt and
pillow in the back of the buggy, hitched Sam up to the buggy, and
we were
ready to travel as soon as the searing afternoon heat began to lessen.
During the heat wave, the blazing sun had been so hot Mama feared
it would
make us all sick if we drove in the heat of the day. She was
also afraid
of the dark when out alone on the road. But, she chose darkness
as the
lesser of the two evils. She knew just about how long it would
take to
travel that distance with any luck at all. But the last thing
she put into
that buggy was her pistol - just in case.
What made her most uneasy was the new Frisco railway line in process
of
construction south from the Indian Territory. Mama had no
exact knowledge
of the distance between the road that she must take and the construction
camps along the railway. She had been hearing some tall tales
about the
behavior of some of those rough men working as laborers in some
of the
crews. If she should happen to meet up with stragglers from
those camps,
she meant to protect herself if she had to.
Just before dark, Mama stopped at a farmhouse to ask for water.
She drew a bucket of water for Sam and filled a jar with water for us in
case we asked
for a drink during the night. We ate our fried chicken, potato
salad,
buttered bread and cookies with the fresh cool water. Before
we drove on,
Mama spread the quilt and pillow to make as comfortable a bed for
Sister in
the bottom of the buggy as she could. She knew Sister would
soon be sleepy
but she hoped I would stay awake to keep her company. She
told me she
needed me to keep her awake. During the long night, she told
me wonderful
stories, and we both sang all the songs we knew.
Fortunately, there were no other travelers on the road that night
after
dark. Though it was not really very dark after the moon came
up. Once, as
we were trotting along, Sam suddenly shied. He jumped nearly
across the
road. Some large animal, what it was we could not tell, bounded
out of
some bushes along the fencerow. We did not know if it was
a dog or wolf.
It made no sound. It leaped easily over a high fence and disappeared.
Mama had been over this stretch of road and knew there was no farmhouse
nearby. She believed it must have been a wolf. Some
coyotes were known to
be in that section, but this beast was much too large and coyotes
are not
so bold. Occasionally lobos drifted into that area and Mama
thought we had
seen one and surprised him as much as he surprised us. She
was more
startled that frightened for she had her pistol at her side, and
I was
confident she would have shot it if it had turned towards us.
Day was just breaking when we reached Grandpa's house. After
fixing us a
bite to eat, Grandmother put both Mama and me to bed. We were
both worn
out. Sister had slept so well she was fresh and lively.
Sister and I found it very pleasant to visit here. There was
lots of room
for us to play, and shady oaks for coolness. Grandpa had a
good rope swing
in one of them. Back home, in the middle of that pasture,
there were no
shade trees in sight. In our yard, there was one small scrubby
cedar set
near the front porch.
Best of all, there were other children near that we could play with.
And
across the street an old lady had a bright green parrot, which we
enjoyed.
Her cage was usually hung on the wide verandah. Polly amused
us when she
whistled up a pack of dogs. She called and whistled until
there might be
about a dozen dogs on the lawn. She knew each boy's special
whistle and
could imitate it perfectly. The dogs ran around bewildered,
each trying to
find his master. Then she would scream "Git out! Go
home, you curs!" And
the poor deluded pups would slink off, knowing they had been fooled
again.
We never could understand how Polly could repeat that performance
so often
without those dogs catching on to the trick, but it never failed
to amuse
us.
While at Grandpa's we learned to watch for the tamale man.
A Mexican with
a small pushcart came by each afternoon selling "Hot tamales!"
He was
regular as ice cream vendors are now. But Mama and Grandmother
thought the
highly spiced tamales were not good for children and rarely let
us buy.
The Mexican had used considerable ingenuity in making his little
pushcart.
He set a big lard can in the box rigged up on two discarded bicycle
wheels.
The big lard can was packed all around with newspapers and partly
filled
with hot water. A smaller can filled with the tamales was
set in the hot
water and had a tightly fitting lid placed over that. The
tamales came out
steaming when he forked them out on the plate we brought when we
were
allowed to buy them.
Though she could not have known, Grandmother's colored girl told
us that
those tamales were made from dog meat and that all Mexicans were
dirty. I
knew it wasn't true for Uncle Mat had taken me for a ride once and
we had
passed this Mexican's house. There was no other Mexican family
in the
vicinity and while the place was shabby and run-down, it was clean.
Ella
May just did not like Gonzales but if we bought his tamales, I noticed
she
did not refuse to eat some of our purchases.
Ella May did not like the quaint old Chinaman who passed almost
every
afternoon, either. He was strange, she said, and ate rats.
He was always
dressed the same, long black shirt and no other man wore the tail
out at
that time. His black cotton pants were short enough that his
white socks
showed. The only change in his appearance was in his headgear.
Sometimes,
he wore a tiny black pillbox cap with his long gray queue dangling
down
behind, but if he wore his odd straw hat, he coiled his queue out
of sight.
A few small boys sometimes followed him chanting in a nasal
singsong,
"Ching-ching-Chinaman, eats dead rats!" But he always ignored
them,
walking along in quiet dignity.
These two were the only foreigners I knew as a child. That
they were
different I understood. But both Grandmother and Mama always
pointed out
that a lady worthy of the name should treat every person with courtesy.
Nice manners were the mark of a lady, and that theme was drilled
into me
most thoroughly from infancy. Courtesy and consideration!
The two most
important words of all.
Grandpa Weems served in the Confederate Army and was captured at
the fall
of Vicksburg. As I remember his comment on that, the soldiers
he was with
were heavily outnumbered and when they started to retreat, found
a regiment
of blacks behind them so they turned and ran back to surrender to
the
whites.
He was imprisoned on an island, Number 10, and many of the guard
were black
and the prisoners were so starved that some caught and ate rats.
The Yanks
stripped most of the state of food and even before capture he said
much of
the time all he had to eat was ears of corn right from fields as
they
marched.
After he was freed, Grandpa went back home, but Reconstruction times
in
Mississippi were bad. The whole section where he had lived was in
ruins, no
money, no supplies, no horses or mules to work the land or even
seeds to
plant it, impossible taxes, debts, etc. Indescribable.
On some of the
land the freed slaves stayed and they and both my grandfathers tried
to get
along. Since all white men were disenfranchised, only carpetbaggers
and
ignorant blacks were running the government, and much of the land
had been
confiscated, it was time to move to Texas.
I remember one of them said that if war could have been postponed
for as
few as ten years it never would have happened, both because of the
economic
conditions and because of the invention of the cotton gin.
The other
grandfather said he had to work so hard to make his farm pay even
before
the war that he was not sure if he owned the place and the slaves
or if
they owned him.
Then they heard of cheap virgin land in Texas. So they went
in 1870. It
was raw virgin land and it meant long hard labor so as soon as a
log house
was livable they sent for their families. I do not how Grandmother
Lanham
went to Texas but I assume she went by boat with her two small sons
and
essential household goods to Galveston, then by freight wagons to
Sherman.
I know that Grandmother Weems made the trip by boat down the Mississippi
River and across the gulf where Grandpa met her and his family.
Grandmother Weems' maiden name was Martha Catherine Red. A
cousin of mine,
Inez Bosewell Biggerstaff traced her line to Josiah McGaw, a soldier
in the
Revolutionary War who fought with the Swamp Fox, Francis Marion's
men in
the army near Charleston, South Carolina. At one time, her
people were
quite well to do and lived on a large plantation, but both her parents
died
of malaria when she was about seven. He uncle, Dr. Red, raised
her along
with his own three daughters. They had a French governess
and she was
given the customary education for gentlewomen of that period.
She was
taught some French, a little music, polite social manners and beautiful
convent type sewing, nothing very practical for a pioneer's wife.
Grandmother's handwork was exquisite and she always that the ability
to
"sew a fine seam" was the mark of true gentility.
But the war had wiped out her family fortune, and it was a long-standing
joke that Grandpa had teach her how to cook when they went to Texas.
To
her credit, she did adapt to the rigors of pioneering, but without
losing
her polite social ideas of being a LADY. And one of her common
admonitions
when I was a child was "Remember, my dear, you should always behave
like a
lady" - or "A little lady would never do that!"
When she spoke of the times she remembered back in Mississippi,
she often
mentioned incidents when she was teaching the young slaves.
Uncle Red had
built a small church on his plantation and Grandmother called the
young
children in to learn to read, write and figure each morning.
The house
servants were well trained. In fact, if Mammy Lou had
not been devoted,
my premature mother, who weighed in at three pounds fully dressed
in those
two long flannel petticoats, wool undershirt, etc. would not have
lived.
She was put to bed in a large roasting pan on the let-down door
of the
first big iron cook stove in the county. And Mammy Lou faithfully
kept the
wood fire at the proper temperature for days - so Mama was incubated
before
incubators were invented. Grandmother had five children but
Mama was the last, and the only girl.
Grandmama, Kittie Weems, wrote the following letter to her sister-in-law
after her brother George Red died.
Sherman, Texas
Dec. 6th, 1880
My Dear Mattie
I expect you are looking for a reply to your last letter so I will
try and
write a few lines tonight if my eyes do not fail me. I have
been so busy
and it has been so cold and wet that I thought I would wait until
I got
through with my work before writing. I have quilted five comforts
this
winter and am almost through with my winter sewing. We are
all very well
at present. My health has been better for the last few months.
Well
Mattie I know that you will be very much surprised when I tell you
that we
will move next Monday to the Poor Farm. Jimmie is appointed
superintendent
of the farm. They pay him four hundred and sixty ($460)
dollars and feed
the family. We will have a very nice and comfortable home
to live in.
Jimmie will not have to work. The boys can go to school all
year. This is
why I consented to go. I do not like the idea of going at
all but-as
Jimmie thinks it best-I will try it this year. I will not
have any thing
to do in the affairs there.
Jimmie is trying to get through with his corn this week will make
over
thirteen hundred (1300) bushels, he has not finished his cotton
yet. We
have had a month of bad weather. This is why Jimmie is not
done gathering
his crop. We had rented this place for another year.
Are you through with
your crop, how many bales of cotton did you make. I hope you
realized a
good price. I am glad that you have nice hogs to kill.
Will you keep the
young man that you now have another year. Tell Herman Aunty
thinks he is a
very smart boy to pick so much cotton. He must be a good boy
and take the
place of his Papa as near as he can, Mattie. You must-try
and cheer up.
Think of your dear little ones, it is hard to become reconciled
to the loss
of our dear ones. When I think of my dear brother as he was
when here and
then think that I can never see or hear him again oh my heart almost
breaks. But Mattie we all have to die soon or late let us
try and meet him
beyond the skies where there is no parting. I wish that I
could spend
Christmas with you and the children. I know it will be a sad
time for you
ALL ALONE. Poor children Papa will not be there to enjoy it
with them-but.
You wished to know all our ages. Pa was born Apr 27th 1817
died July 23rd
1849. Ma was born May 25th 1821 and died 1855 Nov 26 -- I
think. Bud was
born June 10th 1844. I was born May 26th 1846. Sue was
born Aug 1st 1849
and died Nov 6th 1860 -- Bud lived to be four years older than Pa.
Ours
has been a short - lived family. All gone but me, Oh Mattie
think how
lonely I must feel. I do not expect to live much longer.
My eyes have
become exhausted and I will have to close. Kiss the children
all for Aunty
and tell them to be good children. Write soon, I am always
so glad to get
a letter from you.
Your Affectionate Sister
Kittie
Mama stayed with her parents until almost time for Papa to come back
home.
She wanted to be there when he arrived and she decided that since
the
weather had moderated and the heat was not so severe, it would now
be best
to drive back by daylight. The trip was uneventful and while
we liked to
go, we found we also liked to come back to our home.
Papa came in looking so healthy and brown. He enjoyed his
outdoor work,
but he was glad to be back, too. It was always a busy time
just before the
opening of school. So many details, so much correspondence,
planning and
organizing various projects, he worked harder in those last two
weeks
before the start of a term than any other period except the one
opening day
and the closing day.
This year arrangements had been made to have a music teacher connected
with
the school. Miss Grace Kane came to live with us, and one
of the front
rooms was set aside for her piano pupils. Mama did not mind
cooking for
one more and she liked Miss Grace so much that she was glad to have
her in
our home. Since she was a very attractive girl, naturally,
she had young
men coming to see her. One in particular, I admired so greatly
that I
thought could not grow up fast enough to marry him - and of course,
I
didn't but Miss Grace didn't marry him either. A frustrated
romance!
My first experience with horses came about this time. Papa
liked to ride
Sam and he was a very good saddle horse, though Mama always used
him in the
buggy. Papa had a Mexican saddle with a horn as large and
round as a
saucer. I can remember he would swing me up behind the saddle,
put Sister
in front on that wide saddlehorn, and away he would gallop across
the
prairie. It was wonderful.
Once, Papa left home early in the morning to attend to some business
and he
came back about the middle of the afternoon, tired and hungry.
He filled
Sam's watering trough, then asked me if I wanted to ride around
the yard,
while he went in to eat his dinner. Of course, I did but it
was something
I had never tried before. Sam had other ideas about that.
He wanted to be
fed too and started for the barn. I tugged at his reins to
turn him but he
paid me no heed. I barely managed to stop him in time to slide
off before
he dragged me off as he went into his stable. But from then
on, I wanted
to learn to ride and I loved horses.
Mother had been an excellent rider and she used to relate how when
I was
only a few months old. She had taken me up in her lap to ride, sidesaddle,
whenever she visited any of her friends. Grandpa and Papa
used to boast
that she could handle any horse they ever had. She even drove
Uncle Mat's
fine racer hitched to his light training cart and this was considered
quite
a feat for a woman. Crockett, a beautiful blood-bay animal,
was so high
spirited as to be a bit fractious. Even so, Mama frequently
drove him down
town on errands. Whenever she did, some of Uncle Mat's sporty
friends who
knew the horse would jokingly challenge her to a race but they always
found
some excuse to back out of it if she accepted the bid. Sometimes,
they
gave as their excuse that it would not be a fair race since Mama
was so
much lighter than they, which fact was true. Though their
real reason for
not wanting to match a race with her was that they knew her ability
with
the reins, and her skill in controlling the animal. Besides
Crockett had a
reputation for speed. No young Texan would enjoy or willing
accept defeat
at the hands of a woman in a trial of this sort.
So far, I have had only a little to say about Papa. At a very
early age it
was brought home to me that he was terribly disappointed that I
was a girl
instead of the son he had hoped for. Most of the time, he
ignored me
completely. I do remember that on rare occasions, I have overheard
him
boast that I learned to read before I was four years old.
However, that
feat was started on my own initiative.
Both Papa and Mama loved reading and they frequently read aloud
by turns to
each other. If they buried themselves in separate books, I
was left to my
own resources. Then I would get my Mother Goose Rhymes, or
a primer and
pull my little rocking chair between them, as close as possible.
If any
one would listen, I could repeat any of these books from memory
but if I
tried to read them, I sometimes faltered over a single word.
Then I
insisted on being told what that word was. If either parent
ignored my
question, "What's this word?" I simply sat and repeated over and
over "B,
d, b, d," until it become so monotonous that one of them would finally
stop
reading long enough to tell me the word I wanted to know.
I cannot
remember learning at all. According to school standards, my
self-education
was not exactly balanced. I read well and understood what
I read. I knew
many words and their meanings, but I was not a good speller.
I had little
interest in numbers and had never been taught any arithmetic, but
I could
count and make change.
I loved reading and by the time I was seven, when other Texas children
were
just starting to school in the primer, I was reading and enjoying
the old
"Youth's Companion." I read every text in reading that Papa
had in his
library and since he was frequently given complimentary copies of
sets for
all the grade in school, that was quite a lot of reading for a child
who
had not gone to school at all. I could and read some newspapers
but since
that was before comics reached their present popularity, I found
little to
interest me.
Papa did not want me to be too far advanced in school and held me
back by
putting me in the second grade at the start of my schooling.
And he never
would allow me to be promoted or advanced except at the end of the
year. I
never understood why he deliberately held me back. I really
do not
believe it is best for children to be pushed too fast, either, but
it is
hardly fair to force them to work below their capacity.
The first year I started to school was the year Papa got a larger
school
and we moved to the county seat where he was superintendent of three
schools. This town was about twenty or more miles from where
we had
previously lived and in another county. Papa rented a house
just across
the street from the high school where he would have his classes,
which made
it very convenient for him. There was a smaller grade school
in one corner
of the big campus ant that is where I started to school. Only
the three
first grades were in that building.
Our house was not large but it was very comfortable and it was set
in a
fenced yard heavily sodded with Bermuda grass. Papa had a
colored man who
came to keep it nicely cut and it made a wonderful place for romping
games,
with some of the neighbors' children, and there were usually several
of
them around.
The house had four huge rooms, but the room we used most was the
cozy
dining room, for we loved the big, old stone fireplace, and the
round
dining table served for games as well as for meals. By that
time, Sister
and I could play Flinch, Old Maid and other similar games, but actual
playing cards were not permitted. Sometimes Mama and Papa
had their
friends, most often other teachers, in for Flinch.
That fireplace was where we gathered on cold winter evenings.
Sometimes,
we shook a wire popper over glowing coals and listened for the snappy
pops
of the corn. Sometimes, we roasted apples and sweet potatoes
in the hot
ashes, and once in a while, when it was very cold, Mama hung an
iron pot of
beans or stew over the fire to simmer for our supper. On rare
occasions,
she even made corn pones in a heavy iron spider. Oh, we loved
that
fireplace!
We lived in this place two years, and it was there that I had my
first
regular schooling and I admit I was much more interested in the
other
children than in my books, which were far too easy to demand my
undivided
attention. Many times, I begged to carry my lunch to school
because most
of the other children did and I wanted to be like the other small
girls I
knew. I was sure having my lunch on the school grounds would
be a picnic
and I wanted the whole noon hour for play. But Mama insisted
that I come
home for my lunch and I can remember only once that she relented.
Our playground had none of the modern equipment that small folks
find as a
matter of course on their playgrounds now. Never having seen
slides,
acrobatic bars, and such we did not miss them but improvised our
own
amusements by laying heavy boards across fire-wood logs hauled into
the
yard for fuel. Those were our teeter-totters. And when
those same logs
had been sawed into stove lengths, we dragged and piled them in
place to
build walls for our play-houses.. Maybe we appreciated more
what we had to
make ourselves than little ones who are given everything ready-made.
I
don't know but I think we got double the fun.
When I was promoted to the third grade, I had my first love affair.
Not an
unmixed blessing! The little boy who sat behind me, dipped
my pigtails
into his inkwell and whenever he wanted my attention, he yanked
them, too.
But he, also, gave me presents. He shared his gingerbread
with me at
recess sometimes, he gave me some of his favorite marbles to play
jacks
with, and he brought me my first gift of flowers. That was
a huge arm full
of lilac blossoms, and some way that happens to be my favorite perfume,
to
this day.
Another gift that I received while we lived here was the first and
only
gift my father ever gave me personally. It was a small child's
book of
Eskimo stories. I have never understood why he happened to
bring it back
to me after one of his trips, nor why he never gave me any other
present.
I have always believed he rather ignored my presence because he
never
overcame his disappointment that I was not the son he wanted.
Sister was
his favorite and he frequently gave her little things. Possibly,
this was
because she looked so much like him, partly, I think, because she
was
named for his mother, and partly, also, because she was gayer than
I and
she did not draw back into a shell as I did whenever I sensed his
snubs.
Shortly before we moved from this town, the whole family received
a shock
that I shall never forget. Sometime very late at night we
were awakened by
pounding steps on our front walk. A man's voice was calling
Papa
urgently. He said he had a wired message from Papa's father
asking Papa to
come immediately, that Grandpapa had shot Papa's brother.
We were
horrified and could not believe what we heard. While Papa
dressed, Mama
phoned to find out when the next train left. Then Papa thought
to phone
the telegraph office and have the message read to him. It
was not true, of
course, but what had happened was bad enough. The message
actually said
that Grandpapa had killed a man, and that Papa was to let Uncle
Wiley know,
and both sons were asked to come at once.
Grandpapa owned and operated a small grocery store with a large
wagon yard
in connection at the edge of town. Country people coming in
to trade
frequently drove long distances, too far for their wagons to make
the round
trip in one day. They would park their rigs in Grandpapa's
enclosure,
stable their teams in his sheds, and buy supplies for several months
ahead.
A few men brought their wives and when they did a bed usually was
made up
in the back of their wagons for the family to sleep over night unless
they
had relatives to visit. Other men came alone and these had
their choice of
sleeping in their wagons or taking a bunk for 25 cents in the bunkhouse.
If purchases in Grandpapa's store amounted to a considerable outlay,
there
was no charge for these facilities.
Usually everything about the yard was quite orderly, but occasionally
some
rough men would come in on a Saturday night and cause a disturbance.
On
this particular Saturday night, Grandpapa was alone in the place
when a
big, drunken bully came in and began cursing Grandpapa for some
fancied
wrong. The abuse started at the front end of the long store.
Grandpapa
tried to pacify the man but as he talked quietly to him, he was
backing
away from him. A few plain chairs were set out down the center
aisle for
the convenience of customers, and this man picked up one and was
menacing
Grandpapa with it. He carried the chair raised high over his
head,
threatening to strike Grandpapa down. Grandpapa continued
to walk slowly
backward, still trying to reason with the man. He even appealed
to the two
other men who had entered the store behind this dangerous ruffian.
They
refused to have any part of it, knowing how quarrelsome drinking
made this
man.
Grandpapa had backed almost the full length of the store until he
was in
reach of a desk where he kept his books and accounts, with the man
still
following and becoming more abusive. When he reached the desk,
Grandpapa
pulled open a drawer where he kept his pistol. By this time
the man was so
close, he could reach Grandpapa with a heavy blow from the chair.
"Put that chair down!" Grandpapa ordered crisply, as he brought
the pistol
into plain view at his side.
The man swore foully as he lunged forward to bring the chair down
with all
his strength. Grandpapa sidestepped and shot from the hip.
Grandpapa was a quiet, mild-mannered, little man with wavy gray
hair and a
neatly trimmed beard and he looked very much as many another Confederate
veteran of those times did. He must have been in his middle
sixties at the
time. It still seemed strange to any one who knew him that even
a drunken
man could be so foolish, to try to intimidate one of General Lee's
officers, especially one who had served four years with his staff
and was
still with Lee at Appomattox.
There was no formal trial after this killing. Grandpapa, with
his two
sons, reported to the sheriff the next morning, and answered a few
questions. The man who was killed was notoriously quarrelsome
and
dangerous especially when drinking and even his companions under
oath
stated that Grandpapa had ample justification. Though the
wild Saturday
nights in some Texas towns were less frequent than they had been
previously
and the custom of shooting a town up never had the prevalence that
movies
and TV programs would have you believe, there were plenty of times
when
such violent incidents did occur. All the wildness was not
yet gone.
Shortly after that, Papa moved us to Prosper, another Texas town.
I was
then in the fourth grade and far more advanced than some of the
adolescent
boys in my classes, several of whom were grown in size. A
few of them were
so unruly the school board thought it wise to employ a man teacher.
The
grade school teacher was a character I associated in my mind with
Ichabod
Crane and there certainly were strong physical similarities.
Mr. Dean was
almost bald, tall and angular and he was fired with a great determination
to drill mental arithmetic into our heads. An excellent idea,
perhaps, but
then, some heads are virtually impenetrable, meaning some of those
larger
boys. They were slow in books but not necessarily dumb for
many of them
were already qualified to take a man's place at round-up time or
harvesting.
Math was not my strongest subject, but I could figure much more
rapidly
than these over-grown boys. In return for a whispered answer,
I was kept
well supplied with apples, candy and chewing gum, sometimes even
Sen-Sen.
Gum and Sen-Sen were contraband but my Geography was large enough
to
provide me with an adequate screen. And if the strong scent
of the Sen-Sen
gave me away, I could always say in all innocence that I had been
given
some at recess.
Come Spring, and these older boys and girls began to moon around
and to
make lovesick calf eyes at one another. It was so obvious
that love-love-
love had struck his older pupils that even Mr. Dean recognized the
symptoms
and decided his best course of action would be to shuffle the seats.
These
young Romeos were much too shy to stand around corners and waylay
the girls
of their fancies so they resorted to note writing, an activity that
was
strictly against Mr. Dean's rules of conduct.
Mr. Dean's schoolroom was long and the double desks were arranged
facing
the front with a long aisle between them and since they were expected
to
need more help with their lessons, the smaller children sat in smaller
desks closer to the front where teacher's desk was placed.
At the back of
the room the desks were large enough to accommodate grown-ups and
that is
where these older pupils were seated with the girls on one side
ant the
boys on the other. The aisle was too wide between the two
rows of desks to
make it safe to pass notes between them for Mr. Dean's desk was
placed
exactly in the middle where he would have the best opportunity to
see and
intercept anything passed between. The water bucket was near
the door just
back of Mr. Dean's desk and we were permitted to get a drink at
any time
during the day provided there was no other pupil getting a drink
at the
same time.
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